I hear it all the time… “I love your work, I want to have a portrait session with you, I just want to lose 15 (or 10, or 20, or 50) pounds first.” But will you?
We all mean well. I know I do. I believe you do too. When we make these promises to ourselves, much like New Year’s resolutions, we want to keep them, but life has a nasty habit of getting in the way most of the time. Here’s what usually happens.
You want (and deserve) beautiful images, so we talk, you tell me how much you’d love to have a portrait session “someday”, when you’ve had a chance to “lose some weight”. I mean, overall you’re healthy, you just need to shed a “few more pounds” before you’re ready for pictures, right? You say this in earnest, so you decide to go out and buy a gym membership, or the latest diet & exercise program on the market, to the tune of anywhere between $800 to $1,600 a year.*
But you’re motivated, you want to look good in your pictures. So for the first week, you are OP! (That’s ‘on plan’ for those not familiar with the weight loss vernacular.) And look at that, you’re down 3.5 pounds in the first week. Woo hoo, you’re going to look SMOKIN’ HAWT! But then week 2 rolls around, and you’re really missing that bacon cheeseburger everyone else is having for dinner one night, but you persist, only to discover that the big loss on week one was just your body going into shock and you’re only down half a pound for this week. WTH? You denied yourself, you stayed the course, the injustice of it all!!! On to week 3, you’re extra good and exercise twice as hard, the scale WILL be your friend this week! Instead, you have a gain of 1.5 pounds. UGH! Week 4 is your daughter’s birthday, one slice of cake won’t hurt, especially considering that you worked so hard last week and gained anyway. Oddly enough you break even this week, no gain, no loss. The following week you’re sort of OP but your heart isn’t really in it anymore and you gain 3 pounds. At this point you’re ready to throw your hands in the air and your program out the window.
Does this sound familiar to anyone? And what have you got to show for it? It’s a 6 weeks later, your pocketbook is lighter but you are not, and you have nothing but a cupboard full of shake powder and the quiet desperation of feeling like you failed. We’ve all been there.
Consider this alternative…
Bite the bullet. Stop hiding. Book your session. Come see me. Let me pamper you with professional hair and make-up. I have studied under leading experts in the field, trust me to know how to pose you in the most appealing way to flatter your particular body type. Let me show you how beautiful you are right now, as you are.
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And what will you have to show for it if you choose this alternative? You’re not going to lose any physical weight this route either (even though I’m good for taking off 10-20 pounds in camera through posing alone), and yes, your pocketbook will likely be lighter (you only buy what you absolutely love though), but you will lose the exhausting emotional weight of self-doubt, insecurity, and poor body image. You will have experienced a day where YOU were the focus of everyone's attention (when is the last time that happened?), a day to relax, enjoy, and recharge your battery. A day where you once again feel as beautiful as your soul knows you are. You will have gained confidence and power in being reminded that you are so much more than a number on a scale or calendar. And you will have a beautiful, tangible collection of images to remind you of that feeling every day for the rest of your life, just in case you ever forget again. There’s nothing sexier than confidence. That feeling is fierce and priceless.
Skip the diet, don’t wait, you’re beautiful just as you are and you deserve to celebrate it!
*According to CNBC the average gym membership is $800 per year. The latest popular diet & exercise program on the market today (which I personal have tried and enjoyed the exercise portion of but will not name) can cost in excess of $1,600 a year for the exercise videos and the monthly installment of shakes and supplements.
I am not advocating against eating right and exercise nor am I suggesting that people who are at an unhealthy weight should ignore their doctor’s recommendations. This article was written for women who are overall healthy but critical of their appearance.